Honesty

I hear people say, “Truth hurts”. I thought this always talks about the negative, in that, somebody has to be reprimanded for his wrong. But it’s not always the case. Inasmuch as I value tactfulness and respect, I also believe and strive to remain honest. I keep the old saying, “Honesty is the best policy.” In our language, we have a counterpart for this slogan. We say, “Ang nagsasabi nang tapat, nagsasama nang maluwat.” (Honesty keeps the relationship intact.). Most of the time, it pays to be honest. But I’d rather ‘hurt’ people by telling the truth than saying a lie. Anyhow, I feel weak afterwards. I don’t wish to hurt anyone, especially those I care about; never a friend. I just pray that my being honest would protect the person and myself from getting much hurt. I pray for understanding and an open heart. And I sincerely hope I’m doing the right thing.

ideal man

something I got from my collection of reflections...

A lot of times I find myself lecturing the youth about decision making on relationships. For one, I believe that students have no right be involved in relationship—yet. Seriously, they are not yet ready. And when the time comes that one’s eligible, there are still ‘qualifications’ to consider. Am I idealistic? Unrealistic? I don’t think so. I believe in my heart, there is this one person uniquely and specifically designed for each one of us. Some people might think I must be living in a dream world. I’m just being honest here.

I don’t get into relationships because I didn’t want to. I believe that relationships prepare you for marriage; and it takes careful measure before you get yourself involved. In the first place, I wasn’t sure whether married life is what I’m directed to pursue, although I grew up in a wonderful home, and I know my parents showed us a good example of family and marriage. As time goes by, the idea of marriage is becoming more considerable to me. Perhaps it’s part of getting older. In any case, I’m sure it will not be soon.

I believe the Lord has designed someone to complement another, in almost every way. If you ask me, I want a man who fears the Lord; a man of God. I want him to take me higher in my level of faith, to lead, guide and protect me, to soar with me. I want him to enjoy life with me, to grow old together. I'd love us to sing together; I sing for him and he sings to me. He is the better half of who I am. I know the Lord’s chosen one has the blessing of the people we love, too. And things will be set in harmony. There will be challenges for sure, but there is also joy and security. He is an image of God’s love. Anyhow, this is just my thinking. Needless to say, God's choice is someone beyond our expectations. God knows who is designed for whom and I trust Him.

God loves us. And we are God’s dear children. It is our role to keep ourselves upright; to keep our worth. If you value yourself; you will be valued.

So, you might be thinking, no one would ever meet the standards I say. I believe otherwise. Somewhere out there, the Lord is preparing him. Isn't it exciting to meet him one day?